The Single Married Mom

Here I am... I am a single married mom. Sounds weird? Not if your a military wife. I think it is harder than being a real single parent. As a single parent you get used to the life; being the only one your children can depend on. But the single married mom; she gets used to the children depending on here and then she gets help from her military hubby. She gets a little spoiled and then it is all ripped away and she is the single married mom again. Having to deal with the children crying for their daddy and, bills, plumbing issues and everything else. There is a saying in the military community. Murphy's law: Anything and Everything that can go wrong will go wrong when the hubby is gone... Sounds silly!

One deployment... My dog had a seizure the same day he deployed... he was not even gone 24 hours. Another... someone slashed 3 tires on our truck and of course it was a Sunday. The first deployment, I got sick with a 104 fever. I tell you; Murphy is a mean one. However being the single married mom is not all bad. The homecomings are wonderful and you learn how to talk to your spouse. You learn to function on your own. This is a good thing and sometimes a bad thing. Only in that it tends to make our spouse feel useless. We balance the check book and cook dinner, we get the oil changed in our cars and go to boy scouts meetings. We can and have to do it all!

Each deployment takes a toll on us. Most other military wives myself included would never give up our life styles. We support each other and help each other through each difficult deployment. Offering a shoulder to cry on when the separation feels like too much. We celebrate the mile stones. Half way parties and planning the homecoming. When our love one returns home safe in our arms we celebrate with each other. We all feel the same for just one small moment. True happiness. I love my military man and our life. Yes, I am a single married mom!